...the news that there was a female serving Mass at the EF took me rather by surprise. I might be a right old reactionary, but if faced with a serviette at an EF I'd vote with my feet. At an OF you have to put up with it along with all the extraneous ministers, even though I'm even more sensitive to the wrongness of it since I've been assisting at the EF. That's where a long mantilla comes in very handy, acts like blinkers. Come to think of it, perhaps that's why some people think women who wear them are doormatty: you have to have your head down and practice serious custody of the eyes to avoid looking at abuses that could be occasions of sin (have you never left an occasional OF Mass slightly peeved?).
What is it that makes people misunderstand so painfully, deliberately or not, what's going on at the EF Mass? The main attraction for me with the EF from the point of view of being a pew sitter is the simplicity of it. The silence, the time to pray, the total lack of distraction in the Sanctuary except for what the Priest is doing, the specialness of the Sanctuary, and the inclusivity (yeah, I can do lovey jargon). The entire congregation is included in what's going on at the altar. You don't need to be up there and doing, you can relax NOT having to do anything but be and pray. You are at Calvary, isn't that enough?